Self Improvement Articles
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What Are You Dismissing? by Dr. Joe Vitale I had lunch with a dear friend the other day. While I enjoyed the company and the food, I left feeling a little depressed. When I thought about it, I realized my friend was brilliant at dismissing every book, concept, guru, self-help method, or healing approach he had read or heard about. He was not directly negative or purposely critical. He sincerely wanted something that would work in his life. But he was unconsciously dismissing everything that came his way. At one point I told him about a guru I had studied over two decades ago. I told him that people said, "My guru was obviously enlightened. He radiated it." My friend cut in saying, "I'm sure there are people who saw that guru and didn't think he was any smarter than a paper bag." Well, my friend is right. But my friend is also unhappy. I think there's a lesson here. When we dismiss people and ideas because the entire world doesn't agree with them, we get to be right. But we also get to stay empty inside. By dismissing what could work, we dismiss our own growth. We dismiss what's possible. It doesn't matter if the book you read and love is loved by anyone else. It doesn't matter if the teacher you admire is admired by anyone else. It doesn't matter if the healing method that worked for you doesn't work for everyone else. What matters is you. Your happiness. Your health. Your healing. Your well-being. Truth is, no method works for everyone. No teacher is right for everyone. No book is going to inspire everyone. It all comes from within. You are the first and final authority on your life. Rather than dismissing what is possible so you can be right, what can you accept so you can grow? Dismissing is often a way to deflect the messages. It's a self-defense mechanism. If you dismiss the book, idea, or method offered to you, you get to be right --- and stay right where you're at. Every successful person I know has accepted new tools into their lives over the years, spent thousands of dollars on personal growth and self-study, and never regretted any of it. The key is not dismissing, but digesting. For example, Nerissa and I had dinner with friends recently. One friend was complaining about her job. From her perspective, there was no way out of the misery she felt at her place of work. Bad boss. Bad hours. Bad pay. You name it, it was bad. Later we were joined by other friends. As "chance" would have it, one of the new friends had connections where our complaining friend worked. He gave our unhappy friend a name, and said he could help her resolve her issues. He went on to say that this connection was a supervisor, head of many departments, and could probably resolve whatever was wrong. I was stunned. So was Nerissa. We were seeing magic happen right before our eyes. But what did our unhappy friend do with her new lead and new hope? She dismissed it. She didn't write down the name or the number, or show any signs that something wonderful had just occurred. Do you see how this works? Sometimes we can self-sabotage the things we say we want. We simply dismiss the good. Let me end this with another example: Yesterday I received a letter in the mail about a new audioprogram about dissolving illusions. I read the piece but dismissed it. I figured it was simply stuff I had already heard before and probably even recorded elsewhere myself. Then today I got another mailing, this time from a different source, but selling the exact same audioprogram. I read it over closely. I thought, "This is interesting, but I bet there's little new in it." I then placed the mailing aside. An hour or so later, as I was reviewing this very article you're reading right now, I suddenly realized that I was doing the very thing I am warning you not to do: I was dismissing an opportunity to learn. I dug out the mailing, filled out the order form, and dropped it in the mail. The audios are on the way. The point is not that you buy everything that comes your way, but that you don't dismiss everything that comes your way. Sometimes a dismissal is a mask. It's your self-sabotage at work, keeping you where you're at. To grow, you must allow. Again, you are the final
authority on your life. Let your guard down, and let life in.
Attention &
Intention - The Magic Combination to Fulfill Your Dreams
How do wealthy people create their wealth? For most of us it seems like magic; and many actually think that there must be a secret formula involved. In our western world, we are conditioned to always believe that the most complicated solution must be true. That's why you see the word "easy" in many advertisements. "Easy," because with all the high tech stuff around us, life has not become easier at all. However, life itself is actually easy, and very simple. What it makes complicated is our perceptions and conclusions. The same is true with manifesting wealth in your life. If you follow simple steps, you will create wealth in your life. The challenge is that we have forgotten to think in an easy way. Our mind comes up with the most deluded stories to justify why others have wealth and abundance, and we don't. To create wealth and abundance in your life begin with one simple step: believe that it is possible for you to have it! Think about how much time you spend during your day to achieve this goal. Most of us are so busy with our lives that we run almost all day on auto-responder. We have given ourselves a side role in our self-produced movie. We are not present to tell the director what to do in the movie. So our days either go as they have in the past, or just at random. In order to direct your attention toward something you'd like to achieve, you need to have free attention. Attention is the magnet that will attract new situations in your life. Without free attention, you are back to playing the auto-responder 'bot. Start with the intention to be wealthy and to live in abundance. Intend to create prosperity in your life. Make this the first thought when you get up in the morning. However, intention alone doesn't get you there. Remind yourself constantly about your new goal. This way, it gets imprinted into your consciousness. Your consciousness needs to build new neuronal pathways, and that will take some time. It is like working out - you cannot expect to be in perfect shape after visiting the gym once. There are also times in your life where you feel discouraged and you just want to say goodbye to this world. Nothing works out, and you think you will never make it. It's almost impossible for most of us to shift ourselves out of this mood. We have the belief that circumstances outside of our control have contributed to our mood, and therefore our attention is stuck on the outside situation. Bringing the attention back to ourselves is the key to solving this dilemma. Discouragement is a result of expectations. It happens when you expect something to happen and it doesn't. It is a confusion about time, because it will happen - just not at the time you thought. So relax, and realign with your intention. This may not be an easy task in the beginning. What Can You Do to Help Guide Your Attention? Today, take 30 minutes aside from your normal daily life – sit down, close your eyes, and start dreaming about what you really want to manifest. - Is there anything you've always wanted? - Is there something you have long given up on? - What makes you really happy? I remember my parents constantly reminded me not to daydream. I hated it when they threw me out of my lovely daydreams. They told me I will never make it in this world daydreaming. They probably didn't know that there are professional people that do nothing but daydream. These individuals have a wonderful life, as they need to be totally relaxed in order to 'download' new ideas, and then sell them for millions of dollars. As an adult I had to re-learn daydreaming, as I had been conditioned not to by my parents. I've heard rumors that Google actually gives its employees some extra time during the day, to do creative daydreaming. Dreaming is highly effective for your creativity; many glorious inventions have emerged from it.
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